It happens every year and yet every year it's the same old thing. There is pressure to conform and expectations to be joyous. Reality however is completely different. Family units are not perfect, we don't all like each other and not everyone has festive fever! Especially me if I am honest.
Don't get me wrong, I celebrate Christmas, just in my own non perfect way.
If you love Christmas and have no problem getting through the season then stop reading this because you don't need my help! Please note I do not advise drink or drugs as stress busters so if you're also disappointed stop reading too! On the other hand if you need some fresh thoughts surrounding the madness then read on.
Personally- I leave the country and come back when it's all over. This year is Christmas Colombian style.
So let's take the stress out of Christmas
SAY HOW YOU FEEL
Putting others first is something that is ingrained into us from a young age, however very often this leads to resentment and frustration. Especially if you’re the one constantly giving in to others . You see, when you constantly bend and mould around other people needs they don't value you at all. You just become an option. A doormat. Yes in life there are times you have to compromise, that's being an adult. However if no one is considering your needs and wants then frankly start suiting yourself!
If it ain't a win/win there has to be one loser. I once had to go a party on my own, my ex didn’t want to come. I never said how annoyed I was. I never said that it was hurtful and I felt like a tool walking into the party on my own and making excuses for his absence. I never spoke up for myself and told this person that I wanted him to come, it was important to me. I let him away with it and guess what....I was miserable, not him!
So say how you feel rather than let it fester and blow up. That's what I used to do to my detriment. Others think your being dramatic and throwing a tantrum. They do not realise all the layers of hurt behind the explosion. They don't know because you never told them. People say choose your battles, it's not about that. If you speak up for yourself there will be no battles. There will be no explosions and tears.
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